Coronavirus and quarantine: from the point of view of children
Arabela Campos Oliven, Professor of Sociology of Education at the Federal University of Rio Grande do Sul, Porto Alegre Brazil. Visiting Scholar at the Lemann Institute for Brazilian Studies of the University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign, 2016-17.
Porto Alegre, Brazil
During the coronavirus pandemic, schools are closed and children, prevented from meeting their classmates and beloved people, barred from frequenting parks and parties.
TV news and adult conversations circulate with the information that we are in “war” against an “invisible enemy” and that children are the main transmitters of the virus, since they may be contaminated, without presenting symptoms and have no notion of social distancing.
How do children process this information?
I would like to share an experience.
I have two nephews who are 3 and 5 years old.
Due to the quarantine I had to change the way I relate to them.
On what I wrote:
“My dear, Frederico and Camilo
I would like you to guess:
Yesterday, your uncle Ruben cried a lot.
It was neither of joy, nor sadness or pain.
Guess what the reason was.
I made a video to prove, that I will send
afterwards.”
They answered, in audio, the possible causes of the crying:
Happiness, homesickness, and death.
I then realized that the happiness of being at home in a more intimate relationship with the parents, blends with the feeling of longing of being deprived from contact with other people they miss and the confusion that is understanding the meaning of death, when one sees images with more death bodies than coffins.
I sent them the video I had promised. They were disappointed for not having gotten it right.
I answered,
“You couldn’t really guess that Ruben, on a beautiful Sunday morning, would be at home peeling onions.
But when I sent the video, you soon realized.
I learned with your answers.
We cry, indeed, of happiness, nostalgia and fear that something bad may happen to us.
But as the saying goes:
There is no good that lasts forever and there is no harm that never ends.
We can cry of joy or sadness and even peeling an onion.
Ruben and I are in quarantine and taking care of ourselves. He has worked a lot.
Another challenge for you.
Imagine what he has been doing at home.
I will send videos. Kisses”